Life runs on eXpress of Feelings....Emotions..affection.. love, hate, like, care, friendship, fear, Anxiety, anger, control, sadness, depression, inadequacy, confusion, hurt, lonely, guilt, shame, joy, happiness, trust, compassion, truth, contentment, and satisfaction and and many more what ever we feel or emot-ions.
Why Divorce? Nowadays more of this
divorce cases legal-illegal Affairs both genders.
If you Google it you
may find the meaning of divorce as this “the legal dissolution of a marriage by
a court or other competent body.”
But why the divorce
cases are in worse in number these days, what is more worrying about is, the increasing number of divorce cases
in Hyderabad specially among young couples is more.
From a report it is
said that "I first went there three months after my wedding," he
says. "My wife, whom I had met through a matrimonial website, was
continuing a preexisting affair with a married man. The counselor tried very
hard to convince us to give it another shot. But she was still in love with
that man, and I was too betrayed to even think about it. We just sat there in
silence for 45 minutes. Then we left and started the paperwork."
If you believe or not,
around 1,500+ divorce application are being filed every month in various family
courts of Hyderabad and Ranga Reddy districts of telangana...
In a survey of this the
Telangana state said, “The number of divorce applications went up by 60 per
cent in just one year.”
11.667 CASES of divorce
were filed in Mumbai in 2014 (till November 30), up from 5,245 cases in 2010.
8,347 DIVORCE CASES were
filed in Kolkata in 2014 (till November 30), a 350% increase from the 2,388
divorce cases filed in 2003.
ABOUT 2.000 DIVORCE
CASES were filed in the Lucknow family court in 2014.Of these, about 900 were
filed by young couples married less than a year. In 2009, the number of cases
filed by young couples married less than a year was 300.
3 MORE FAMILY COURTS
were opened in Bangalore in 2013, to cater to the growing demand, taking the
total number of such courts to six.
The more cases are
recorded in the courts from the corporate industry employees like software
engineers but not from the economically background people and small scale
industry people. It is observed that
higher percentage in the couples where both the partners are working
professionals and have different working hours are getting divorced sooner they
get marry and that soon they will apply for divorce.
The reasons could be
less personal space between them and the work pressure and also the modern life
style they have acquainted from the western countries. It could be pub culture...drug
culture and “Saha Jeeven” so called Dating etc... Etc...Etc It is not only the case
with Hyderabad mahanagara and also with all the metropolitan cities of India.
This is also observed
that the surrounding areas of such metropolitan city areas/districts as well affected
by these cultures they adopted from the so called westerners.
Also there are so many
other factors which are leading to unfortunate acts like suicides of divorcees,
hanging, fire on hair/body burned cases and mentally effected people and some
also lose their jobs because of spending more time on attending court cases to
get solved soon. All other troubles including financial and social relationship
issues begin once the divorce application is filed and started to move around
and round courts.
One of the best medicines
for this is making the couple to attend for counseling in right time is the
only solution for this problem. But unfortunately our metropolitan cities lack
in professional counselors to handle such sensitive situations.
Once we think of our elders from our forefather “a member of the past generations
of one's family or people; an ancestor” generations. There is a pattern of life
that they follow only husband works in the family and wife gives love to his
and to the children by end of the day they reach their houses. There is no
concept of divorce whatever happens to the woman or man they have to stick to
each other till the last breath on this world.
We should also consider the
generation-venerations (changes) with the cost of living has increased from the
day to day life, if we are studied well and have to do any job the literate family has to travel to the cities and cost of living is high as
compared to villages and it is that we cannot live here in city without two
(couple) working on daily basis to bare the expenses of the daily life.
Here are the best policies/practices to be
maintained/followed by us to save our beloved from the luxuries (unnecessary acts)
that we don’t need:
1. We should choose our
choices best and better before marriage thinking of the best suited guy/girl
for you by following your culture and customs.
2. Once chosen fix it to
one relation with him/her, do not think of an Affair with others, even at home
or office. Just maintain health hey-bye relationships with other genders...Except
to an extent to complete the work in the office given or exchanging of goods at
home with neighbours.
3. Plan-out your future
with the earning that you gain from the assets (job, other earning like rent
from own houses in villages etc...Whatever) you have.
4. HERE ARE THE BEST
PRACTISES TO IMPLEMENT
i)
Never depend on one income make a source for second income in
free times like part times at home as you are literate you can try out home
based part time jobs ..Data Entry or earn by Blogging along with your better
and best half of your life.
ii)
Plan to buy minimum and the things you require to you at home or
for office. If you buy unnecessary things you have to sell necessary things
that you have to cope up with the cost of living.
iii)
It is important to save the money not after spending
unnecessarily, but spend the remaining money after you save whatever the way
possible for best gains in future.
iv)
Never invest all the remaining amounts of your wealth in anything
that is risky but plan to invest less like if you have $100...invest $35 wait
for the result and invest another $15 that’s it. Save the remaining we cannot
guess what will happen next second as we are not predictors or gods-of-future.
If you plant something now for your children then there is place for them to
sit under it after words.
v)
One simple thing is Honesty is very expensive these days do not
expect it from cheap people/world.
vi)
First and most important thing for husband/wife to remember is
that do not buy a smart phone (no other gadget) for children these days. Make
them use your phone for any purposes so, that you will know each and everything
they do in daily basis for better parenting.
5. Husband/Wife, you be
lovable to each other and understand each other without any disputes in minds.
Talks to each other every second you get do not hurt each other for any silly
things. Do not remember the things that are unnecessary and which will lead to
breakup. You both are two wheels of the bike that your son/daughter rides in
future.
At Last one thing is,
chose the better half, give life to that better half and till end take care as
you promise in your marriage ceremony that you take care of her in every
situations of life and be happy. In such cases no matter of Divorce...no
suicides...No faultus…..ENJOY.
Divorce is a toll on
emotions. Neither men nor women are happy, rather they both are on edge and are
not at all rational. Especially men in India, who do not like to express
feelings, are more troubled by divorce than they think. And that is why men getting
divorced should open up to all emotional issues rather than curbing them to
better deal with divorce.
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